What is the ShouldStorm?
The ShouldStorm is what I call the culture of criticism that pushes perfectionistic parenting and living. You should do this, you should do that, and you should definitely not do that other thing. The ShouldStorm drives our anxiety, which has reached epidemic levels worldwide and especially in the U.S. One of the key shoulds is the demand that we optimize our lives and our families to our best performance. The ShouldStorm burdens us and steals our joy. But when we are present, the world is full of wonder.
But there is good news! I’ve created a clear 3-Step method to help us take effective action under pressure. I designed it for parents, and people keep telling me it’s transforming their families. But then people started telling me they were using it any time they felt anxious, or under pressure at work. I encourage you to explore the ideas, which are based in the latest biological science. When you sign up for my newsletter, I’ll send you a free introduction to Should-Free Parenting (and living).
Everything I write is in some way about the ShouldStorm and our culture of anxiety. I want us to be free, and I want us to enjoy our lives and our kids. I write frequently on Psychology Today and on Medium and you can read me there, or subscribe and never miss a post.
Read my blog on Medium
My newest blog is on Medium, where I’m having some fun writing about life, the ShouldStorm, and parenting. Here are some recent posts:
Most kids really only need three simple things to develop well.
Tap into your hidden brain network that’s designed to solve the unsolvable.
Read my blog on Psychology Today
I write the ShouldStorm blog for Psychology Today to help parents step out of the culture of criticism and replace anxious overparenting with connected caring. I believe parents can find their power in a world that won’t stop pushing. Here are a few of my most popular articles.
We pay a high price when we live in fear of what could happen.
Do you ever feel like everybody has an opinion on your parenting? The idea that one small thing will alter our child’s destiny forever is driving us crazy.
Parents have always been stressed, but now we are drowning in it. A simple method can help us find a little peace and connect with our kids.
New research suggests saving U.S. mothers should be a national priority.
New research links affectionate parents with a happy and flourishing adulthood.
Why boredom is the best thing for our kids.
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