Welcome. I’m Alison Escalante MD and I am a Pediatrician and Mom on a mission! I have developed a clear 3-step method to help parents raise kids skillfully AND enjoy doing it.
Do you feel like no matter how much you do, you can’t get it right? Like you’re always doing it wrong? Like there is so much you are supposed to know and do as a parent, and that it all matters so much? That’s the ShouldStorm. What is good parenting? Why is parenting so important? Let’s explore a totally different approach to parenting that I’ve worked on for more than a decade.
Anxiety about your kids is almost a moral value. It’s as though if you’re not anxious, you’re not in it as a parent.Alison Escalante MD
I have spent spent my life wondering “What makes us human? What makes us happy?” My undergraduate work at Princeton University in Medieval and Renaissance History (with a focus in cultural interpretation) taught me that IDEAS change history. After medical school at Rutgers-Robert Wood Johnson, I did my residency in Pediatrics at Duke and University of Chicago. I saw the toughest sorts of medical cases and emotional suffering.
16 years of pediatric experience helping families with their physical and mental health has taught me that something is really wrong. We live in a culture of constant criticism that makes us anxious people. Anxious parents produce anxious kids, and that anxiety is at epidemic levels. In the latest research by the APA, 91% of Gen Z kids said they felt physical or emotional symptoms, such as depression or anxiety, associated with stress. Nevermind that preoccupied parents at work are less productive workers.
Wow Doc, you were talking about me. That was exactly what I needed to hear.-a Father at Dr. Alison’s TEDx Talk
“This has got to stop!” I thought. How do you help a child with anxiety? You start with the parent-child relationship, and I came up with a game-changer. Now I want to share the hope that we CAN step out of the anxiety epidemic and enjoy our lives. I have been amazed and grateful at the ways my own children have grown in confidence after I started using my own 3 Steps and losing my should.
There is so much that resonated with me. As a mother of 2 young children, I suffer a serious case of the SHOULDs.Written by a Mother who watched the TEDx talk on Youtube.
So how can I be a better parent? What are the best parenting skills? That’s what we’ll explore together.
A practicing pediatrician in Naperville, IL, I write a column for Psychology Today called Shouldstorm: How Parents can Find Their Power in a World that Won’t Stop Pushing. My recent TEDx talk The Parenting “ShouldStorm” can be viewed on YouTube.
My popular piece for Scary Mommy, “What Your Pediatrician Really Wants You to Know” intrigued parents, then made them laugh and cry. They even republished it with a new title: “I’m A Pediatrician, And This Is What I Want To Tell Parents (But Don’t).”
I work with teachers and special education teams to teach them how to use the 3 steps in their classrooms to help students who are struggling.
The Facebook group, no more ShouldStorm, is a fun place where a group of parents and people who love parents are exploring together what should-free parenting might be.
When you are present, life is filled with wonder.Alison Escalante MD
Disclaimer: I may be a doctor, but I’m not your doctor. Videos, Blogs, Webinars and Handouts are for general education and do not constitute medical advice and cannot replace the rich care you can get in the context of a therapeutic relationship with your doctor. If I am your doctor, remember I can’t do the doctoring part of our relationship in the virtual space. Call my office when you need me and we’ll do a visit. Feel free to comment on the blogs, share what you’d like to me talk about next, or join the discussion on facebook.