Real stories from real parents who have used Dr. Alison’s 3 Step Method to become effective parents, and found their homes transformed. Do you have a story about how you’ve used SIGH, SEE and START with your kids? Dr. Alison would love to hear it! Send an email.
I listened to every word of your TEDx talk. I love the ShouldStorm. I felt the part about anxious parents raising anxious kids was about me, and I feel like I might be doing that to my son. So, I started trying it and I’d SIGH and SEE and then I’d just say “stop,” but that didn’t work. Then I kept trying it and I started to be able to notice what he was doing and think “he’s a 4 year old.” Like when he was throwing his toys and I asked “Why are you throwing your toys?” and he said “I’m flying them.” So I suggested something else to fly.
You can’t ask a 4 year old what his problem is, because he doesn’t know. I am a perfectionist, there is a reason I just got a 4.0 in my class. I feel like I was wound pretty tight. But now I’ll SIGH and SEE what he’s doing and START saying “I can’t have you pulling on my leg right now, but what do you need?” instead of just snapping at him. It’s changed everything. It’s completely changed our home. It wasn’t easy. It was really hard at first. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn’t. At first I thought, “No way, it’s not going to work,” and then I was like “Wow, it really works.” I mean look at him: he’s sitting there letting us talk. He’s completely different. Well, no he’s not different, it’s more like I’m approaching it differently.We talked about this before you came in. We handle our issues differently. I didn’t need anything specific. Once I breath and look at my child, I try things and I’m finding out what works. I know you said it was for parenting, but I’ve applied it to anxiety. Like when I feel anxious (she sighed) and I ask myself “Why are you freaking out?” and then I try something different. Our household feels completely different now. Mom of a 4 year old son and a 1 year old daughter.
I have always been a rational person and found it surprising when my daughter showed me I had an anger problem. When I tried it, I found SIGH, SEE and START created space in my parenting. It allowed me to pause and identify what my kids need before taking action.
Father of a 3 year old daughter and a 1 year old son.
Your TEDx talk was phenomenal and it was just what I needed to hear at that time. I’ve been using your method. Right now we’re moving and changing jobs and there’s the baby. Everything is a big blur, but I’m still I’m able to use it. I feel like my 2 year old daughter‘s behavior is getting so much better.
Mom of 2 under 2.