Watching your TEDx has changed the way I interact with parents in my office forever.Dr. Bradley Block, ENT surgeon
I was so upset and I didn’t know what to do and it was 130 in the morning. But then I found your video and oh my gosh, Sigh See and Start. And so I did that and then I knew what to do. I told all my friends to watch it because it’s been life-altering. –Mom of 4 of all ages.
Your TEDx talk was phenomenal and it was just what I needed to hear at that time. I’ve been using your method. Right now we’re moving and changing jobs and there’s the baby. Everything is a big blur, but I’m still I’m able to use it. I feel like my 2 year old daughter‘s behavior is getting so much better.Mom of 2 under 2.
I listened to every word of your TEDx talk. I love ShouldStorm. I felt the part about anxious parents raising anxious kids was about me, and I feel like I might be doing that to my son. So, I started trying it and I’d SIGH and SEE and then I’d just say “stop,” but that didn’t work. Then I kept trying it and I started to be able to notice what he was doing and think “he’s a 4-year-old.” Like when he was throwing his toys and I asked “Why are you throwing your toys?” and he said, “I’m flying them.” So I suggested something else to fly.
You can’t ask a 4-year-old what his problem is, because he doesn’t know. I am a perfectionist, there is a reason I just got a 4.0 in my class. I feel like I was wound pretty tight. But now I’ll SIGH and SEE what he’s doing and START saying “I can’t have you pulling on my leg right now, but what do you need?” instead of just snapping at him.
It’s changed everything. It’s completely changed our home.
It wasn’t easy. It was really hard at first. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn’t. At first, I thought, “No way, it’s not going to work,” and then I was like “Wow, it really works.” I mean look at him: he’s sitting there letting us talk. He’s completely different. Well, no he’s not different, it’s more like I’m approaching it differently. We talked about this before you came in. We handle our issues differently. I didn’t need anything specific. Once I breathe and look at my child, I try things and I’m finding out what works.
I know you said it was for parenting, but I’ve applied it to anxiety. Like when I feel anxious (she sighed) and I ask myself “Why are you freaking out?” and then I try something different. Our household feels completely different now. –Mom of a 4-year-old son and a 1-year-old daughter.
I have always been a rational person and found it surprising when my daughter showed me I had an anger problem. When I tried it, I found SIGH, SEE and START created space in my parenting. It allowed me to pause and identify what my kids need before taking action.Father of a 3 year old daughter and a 1 year old son.
We brought the newborn home from the hospital yesterday, and I watched your Talk in the middle of the night last night. It’s helped already. The breathing alone. I was feeling pretty stressed and I’m a lot calmer. When you think about it, it’s a communication tool and it’s stuff we talk about in teaching all the time. But now I’m actually doing it. –Dad (and school teacher) of a 3-year-old and a newborn.